Hey, men! Are you about to go on your first date with a lady you met online? Worried about making the wrong impression? Online dating is a wonderful way of meeting new people in your area, but the downside is, first dates really are almost a total surprise. When you meet someone through friends or at work, you’ll already know what she looks like and maybe even know quite a bit about what she’s like as a person. Meet online and, well… This is why it’s so important to make a good first impression on your first date. While you can’t do anything about things like chemistry and personal preferences, you can certainly avoid putting off your date by following our handy guide below.
Your first date is for getting to know one another, so it’s best to pick somewhere nice and quiet where you don’t have to shout over loud music or people to be able to hear each other. You may want to impress your date with your choice of trendy location, which is fine, but agree to meet somewhere quieter before so you can get acquainted, before moving somewhere noisy.
You can’t account for taste and some women do like unkempt men, but it’s best to err on the side of caution with this one. Luckily, we’re pretty sure we don’t need to tell anyone to shower, wear clean clothes and shoes, etc., do we? Yes, wear deodorant, especially in summer. Shave (unless you have a beard, in which case you’ll want to have it well-groomed), and generally make sure you’re not looking a mess. For some tips on male grooming, plus some good reviews about useful products, hop over to this site.
What to wear on your date will entirely depend on where you’re going. If you turn up in a suit to a casual coffee date or bar, you may well look overdressed. Of course, if you’re coming from work and your job requires you to wear a suit, that’s an entirely different matter. If, on the other hand, you’re meeting on the weekend for an informal event, you won’t gain anything by looking like a, well, suit. Smart casual, T-shirt and jeans or just your everyday clothes should be fine for most dates. Avoid wearing any potentially offensive T-shirts unless you already know you and your date share the same sense of humour.
This may seem silly to you. Of course you’re going to be nice to your date! But what about people around you? Women (and men, too) will often judge their dates by how they treat supposedly “unimportant” people – waiting staff, valets, homeless people begging for cash outside the restaurant, etc. You can tell a lot about a person by the way they treat people who are of no use to them. You don’t have to throw $100 bills at every homeless person you see, but being polite, giving a good tip and acknowledging people’s humanity is always a good thing.
Speaking of being nice to your date, here are a few tips that are apparently not obvious. Both men and women often forget that a person they met online is actually a real person. When we are online we sometimes allow ourselves to be direct to the point of being rude and forget to be polite. Some people extend this to the first date. If a date is not going as planned, don’t take out your frustration on your date, even if you think they’re being rude. Not everyone is the same and their actions are not your responsibility. On the other hand, you can control yours. Let your date speak without interruption, don’t spend the entire date on your phone and if you’re not interested in what she’s saying, try to politely change the subject, rather than rudely announce you’re not interested. Yes, you are within your rights to cut a date short if it looks like a lost cause. So is your date. If something like this happens, accept it and move on. You don’t owe anyone an explanation beyond “this is not for me, sorry and good luck” and by the same token, nobody owes you more of an explanation either.